a good destiny.

It’s the unexpected that changes our lives. 

Life seems incomplete without a plan. From day one, we are placed on a path that we are supposed to follow. Our parents and teachers give us the expectations they have for us and we set out to discover what this treasure map has in store for us. 

Yet, we become so obsessed with these expectations that we feel everything in our lives must go according to plan. Whether it’s going to a raucous party or the age by which you want to be married, we have a strict perception of how our future should work. 

But here’s a thing- the most exciting things in life are unexpected. 

The future never unfolds exactly the way we expect it. Random factors come into play and force deviations from the perceived conclusion. Could you imagine how boring life would be if you knew how everything would turn out before you even experienced it? The world works in mysterious ways. Sometimes things will turn out in your favor. But when they don’t, you just have to roll with it. Your life will not turn out as perfectly as you imagined. This doesn't, however, mean you can’t live a life full of joy and satisfaction. 

Take advantage of the opportunities you are given and do not be afraid of risk. If a friend asks if you want to tag along somewhere, say yes. Who knows, you could have a great experience or even meet someone special. Don’t turn down an offer because you are afraid of how it will turn out. An unknown outcome heightens the thrill of the ride. 

Expectations cause the stress of a situation to rise. If you are an optimist, you expect everything to go perfectly. This will make you worry about the endless ways something could go wrong. If you are more of a realist, you’ll expect everything to be worse than it actually will be. This will discourage you from even wanting to go through with the situation you’re so eagerly anticipating. In order to worry less, stop the expectation of any outcome, good or bad. 

It is imperative that you make the most of right now. The quicker you understand how valuable time is, the quicker you’ll stop wasting it. You’re wasting your time by trying to predict the future. Instead, focus on being the best person you can be right now. Become less attached to the likelihood of any expectation and you'll find the stress will lift from your shoulders. 

There is only one moment you should live, one moment that you should put all of your energy, thought and faith in: RIGHT NOW. 

And one thing many people put stress on is relationships. 

We are infatuated with who we should be dating or when we should be dating. Release your relationship expectations and let things unfold on their own. More often than not, the person you’ve been looking for will come into your life when you least expect it. When that happens, you must come to peace with how the relationship came to be and what it has taught you about getting what you want. 

Talking about relationships, I just finally found mine unexpectedly. It may not be the usual one but it is considered a very special one. We may have a thousand and one issues to argue about but at the end of the day, we always choose to agree with each other. We may piss each other off but end up hugging each other. 

And let me just share this short open letter: 

Dear Love, 

You are someone who came into my life so unexpectedly, took my heart by surprise and changed my life forever. Just like a line from the movie, The Notebook, “I didn’t plan of falling in love with you and I doubt if you planned on falling in love with me. But once we met, it was clear that neither of us can control what was happening to us.” 

You just show how much you love me by loving them three and I will always be grateful to God for having you. Thank you for always choosing to take my hand and hold on for one more day, every single day. And I will always do the same thing. 

I am so looking forward to spend the rest of my life with you, with more laughs and more frown, more fights, more make up, more memories, more hugs, more sunrise, more sunsets, more travel, more pig outs, with everything and anything in between as long as it's you, me and the kids. 

                                                                                                                             I love you so much, Love. 

Indeed and no doubt, it is a good destiny, because a good destiny is when two people found each other without even looking, and we just did.